20 March 2023
At a young age, we learn to understand the difference between positive and negative. We then use this notion when asked if we feel we are living a good or positive life. So, depending on your natural mindset and the things you use to measure success, you may sometimes feel you are not living the life you really want. But this may simply be because you have an imbalance in one area of your life or you do not have full control over the things you are using to measure your success or happiness.
If you measure your success by how much money you have, your possessions, your job or your success compared to other people, you may benefit from switching your focus away from these material things, as they may be out of your control. And instead, try looking for happiness and positivity within yourself, or measure success in a range of different ways so you have a much more balanced view of the contribution you are really making to the world.
If you find yourself looking to friends and family for your happiness, or turn to habits like shopping to make yourself feel better when you are lacking energy or feeling negative, it’s time to rethink and rebalance. And see if you can do some simple things like improve your work life balance or allocate more time to really focus on the things you love, so you can free yourself from activities or people that drain your energy.
Doing other simple things like following a healthy lifestyle will always help ensure you have the energy needed to overcome any stressful or negative situations, so it is important to take exercise, use meditation and mindfulness, get plenty of sleep, stay hydrated and eat a balanced diet.
But these are just the building blocks that provide you with a solid foundation and will only ever be part of the answer. Those negative feelings can quickly return if you do not address where any feelings of negativity are coming from. Taking a quick look at different areas of your life to see where you have any imbalance will help provide you with the quick insight needed to start making changes. And checking your natural mindset to see if you can learn to live a more positive life will help and is another powerful tool you can use long term to really reset how things make you feel.
And remember, without knowing it our beliefs can slowly and quietly condition how we react or feel about the things we encounter every day. So it can also be important to be aware of our beliefs and not maintain any that are negative or hold us back. You don’t need great insight to correctly predict that two people with the same genetic background will go on to lead very different lives, if one adopts a positive outlook on life, and the other has a negative outlook or negative beliefs.
Learning to use positive life scripts or mantras to help us change the inner voice or saboteur into our own internal cheer squad will encourage us to keep moving forward and succeed where we would have once never even tried.
So, take some time out to review different areas of your life and see if you can find any imbalance, or see if you can change your natural mindset to break any negative beliefs. This will all help you to learn to live a positive life and focus your energy on doing the things that really bring you joy.
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